Its time for another rant journal from me. As some of my friends have told me that some of my articles/journals/forum posts are too long for them to read then I'll try to make it short. This time I'm not talking about deviantART but world and human nature in general.
Sometimes it seems to me that I'll try to live in a perfect world. Well, I don't try to live in a perfect world but ideas behind my actions reflect that. If you have read my previous rant journals then you might have noticed it. I talk about things and problems that would find a fix or that would be solved only in a perfect world but not in the world we are living in right now. I took this into consideration this time and... I still talk about different stuff in a same way. In a way I believe in. However I do not wish to live in a perfect world if you think that, I would just want to see some issues fixed so it would be perfect. I know that it will never happen but it doesn't mean that I can't talk about it. And to be honest then perfect world scares me anyway, because most of the time people say that unicorns are in a perfect world and unicorns scare me. Their horns are too sharp for me to handle and they would probably poke my eyes out with them.
Anyway, what I want talk about this time is judging other people. I personally have always believed in freedom of speech and freedom in general and there is no way that I want take it away from someone. But it seems that it is often misused. I have been in different online communities for years now and I have seen some good and some bad things during that time. But it seems that people start to abuse their powers more and more. They feel the power behind usernames and not having to say stuff they think face to face, its easy to talk crap about others if they don't know who you are.
Ok, I lost the point I wanted to make with it...
We are back. The point I wanted to make this time is that you can't judge people only based on your own beliefs.
For example I personally don't understand what can be attractive about another man and why some men find other men more attractive then women and other way around. Oh no, did I go over the line? Its a really touchy subject right now, I know. But wait until I finish and judge me then.
Yes, I do not understand that and I think I will never understand it. Maybe its the way I'm raised or the way my brain works. However I don't say that it isn't normal. I also don't go to some online community and start trolling about it. I don't understand why some men love other men but it doesn't mean that I should hate it or talk crap about it just because I don't get it. And I personally don't have anything against gays and if I'd have a gay friend then I wouldn't act differently.
So my question is why do some people feel the need to express their feelings in a hateful way so much? Again, maybe its the way they are raised. But this isn't an excuse to say something hurtful to others. If I were raised as a son of dictator, would I have the right to act as a dictator? Could I kill people and later just say that: "Oh, blame my parents"? I think not.
Yes, your parents play an important roll in your life but the way you are raised is never an excuse for things you do. I know that many of you might disagree with me and its fine. We all have our opinion. In fact most people believe that a huge part of you comes from the way parents raised you. I believe it as well but I also believe that you are the one who makes the final decision. As they say, you don't have to play with the cards dealt.
Another thing that I find extremely important is the education. Parents are the ones who set the base layer for your imaginary house but education is the thing that builds the walls. Yes, you can be very successful without going to school and if you want to be only successful then you don't have to go to school at all. Education isn't the obstacle in your life. When you find yourself in a bad position in life then with a good amount of will you can just smash it and go towards your goal. But I think that having a good education is important. While you can go and smash one obstacle after another, you could just take a moment and skip these obstacles all together because you know how to. Education is something that can save you a lot of energy. So I believe that education doesn't teach you how to be successful but how to think smart and act fast if its needed to. It isn't something that you do for others but for yourself. So to conclude this. I think that education plays an important roll in how you act in different situations and how you communicate with others. It also teaches you different ways to look at different things. If you want to understand more then you first have to widen your perspective.
And I have seen how different people with different education act in different situations. While some go straight for the goal then educated people usually first look around the goal and get a general idea of what will happen if they do something.
I'm not saying that educated people are better then others. I still believe that you don't have to play with the cards dealt.
So we go back to the idea of "judging other people". I now have two ideas why people act the way they do. But we still haven't found the ultimate solution.
Yes, it can be because of your childhood or your education. Both of these are definitely very important factors when it comes to this. However we can't say that one of these would be a 100% reason behind this.
To be honest then at the end it doesn't matter if you have a good background or education. It definitely helps a bit but not that much. It all comes down to your basic emotions and what you do when you feel them. Different people act differently, same way as different people have different opinions. And its all up to you. When you feel rage then do you go and start bashing others down or do you wait for a second, think about it and about the end result behind this?
Now as said before then I didn't think that your parents and education is behind the lines you write or behind the way you say something DIRECTLY. But I do believe that these two factors are behind the way you control your emotions and what you do when you feel something.
It is easy to talk about this in theory and it is somewhat easy to find a general answer to the problem. But as said before, when I started with this journal, my ideas would only work in a perfect world. Knowing the solution doesn't mean that this solution would work in a real world. However I can write a conclusion that I think is important to understand even if you don't agree with my previous text.
So here is the conclusion. It is hurtful when you say bad things to others and it is hurtful for the people who have to listen to it. You might often be right but most of the time you are not. You should remember that you judge people by the way you see things and you might often forget that your opinion isn't the only right one. Everyone thinks that their opinion is the right one, me included. But at the end of the day these things doesn't matter. You felt good when you could hurt someone with your comment but does it feel good later?
I can personally say that I was being bullied a lot in school. Not because I was different but because I felt that education is important to me, I didn't smoke, I didn't drink. My grades were always good. I don't know why but I guess my classmates didn't like it. So for 6 years out of 12 I got bullied a lot and it was hard for me. There were days when I didn't want to go to school but I did. I never gave up and when I got bullied then I just ignored it, I knew what I wanted to do and I did it. For the last 3 years in school I was accepted by other classmates and when we had parties then they knew that I don't drink and they accepted it.
My point is that your judgment can hurt someone really bad and you should think before you do something stupid. But at the same time don't think that your opinion is the only right one. Try to understand others and their feelings. You might feel rage or sadness, depends on what side you are on. But don't ever think of this as a end of the world. We often worry about small things and don't understand that this is just all part of the life and the awesome opportunity to feel something at all.
As promised before, I tried to make it short and sweet. Oh wait...nvm.